Baby Sleep Advice

Hello! I have two children: Lili was born in summer 2007 and Sári in 2012. Lili was breastfed from the moment we brought her home from the hospital, she was put down in her cot whenever she could and spent most of the night sleeping in her own room. The paediatrician, the nurse, the grandmother, even the neighbour’s aunt were happy.
Only I was NOT!

I suffered, thinking I was doing the right thing.
The long break from breastfeeding made my breasts sore, and I sat in the kitchen for hours milking. It was very difficult to make the time between two breastfeeds, every hour was agony. And at night, when I was finally able to go to bed, I wondered: if I don’t like sleeping alone, why should my baby, who is only a few months old, have to? I suffered, believing I was doing the right thing. Because then he will learn that he needs to suckle on time and sleep alone. Even though that’s not how I do it either! Because even after forty, sometimes I eat more often, sometimes less often, I like to be with company during the day and I like to sleep with my partner at night.

I started researching
on the Internet and in books, but at first I only came across information that was not in line with my intuition and my daily experience. With the help of breastfeeding counsellors and a psychologist, I found experts and books (in foreign languages) that described the normal suckling patterns of babies and toddlers, their sleep needs, their expected sleep development and the body contact as essential fuel for healthy development of the child, taking into account the physical and psychological needs of the baby and the mother and the whole family.

Many years of theoretical training and practical experience
Became a breastfeeding counsellor and a baby and childcare counsellor, while sleep/sleeping also became my speciality. I am passionate about the subject, as I found a lot of important and convergent information that was not available anywhere else in one place.

I have found that the best way to help families is to think together about how to make breastfeeding or bottle-feeding, nighttime and daytime sleeping and babywearing a natural part of everyday life, in a way that is manageable, relaxing and enjoyable for everyone. I look forward to your questions about breastfeeding, sleeping and carrying babies, small and big children!

„I have heard a lot of useful information and the main message for me is that everything is fine as it is. It’s normal to go through the processes we go through, others are in similar situations and babies change over time. Acceptance is also one of the things that being a parent teaches me. Thank you again!”

„Hi Sandi,
You have calmed me down, I am extremely grateful for your help!!!!! Thank you very much!”

„Hi Sandi,
you helped me a lot again, thank you very much! Everything seems so obvious when you think about it, yet it’s so easy to get blown off course by a storm!”